Fear paralyses. Stops you dead in your tracks.
It knocks you off kilter. One day you’re flying along, high as a kite, the next – boom! Fear hits you right in the face. All it can take is one tiny little trigger point and that’s you. Out of alignment. No clear direction. Going round in circles.
This past week has been a week of firsts for me – the big one – starting my own business. Declaring that I’m now doing Distance Energy Healings and Intuitive Guidance Sessions (no longer behind the scenes like I had been while working a full-time job).
I’ve taken the big step forward.
There were some glorious moments last week. Happy dances. Imaginary high fiving myself or my Angels and Spirit Guides. Giddy jumps and laughs of glee! Oh yeah, high on the good stuff!
And then come the fearful thoughts, trying to overshadow the good. I’ll not lie and say I haven’t attached into the fearful thoughts, several times I have – and when you’re on such a high, the crash can come pretty darn fast!
I’ve done a lot of journaling around fear this week and my angels lovingly shared this with me:
When you act from fear you miss possibilities. Fear narrows your vision.
- We’re so focused on the fear and ‘possible’ consequences that we miss other opportunities.
- We’re so focused on the ‘what ifs’ that we miss the magic of now.
- We’re so focused on staying safe and secure that we miss the energy that’s flying about outside of our comfort zones – eagerly flying about wanting to attach to someone who’s willing to put themselves out there.
Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of overwhelm. Fear of looking ridiculous. Fear of criticism. Fear of letting go of what we’re used to. Fear of being alone. Fear of letting go of control. Fear we’re not good enough. Fear of abandonment. Fear of not being accepted. Fear of discomfort. Fear of going bankrupt or into debt. Fear of missing out.
Basically, all these centre around fear that we won’t be ok. Lack of trust in ourselves and the Universe.
False. Expectations. Appearing. Real.
We fear life won’t be ok and often our fears manifest into reality (after all, that’s what we’ve been focusing our energy on – energy flows where attention goes).
If we’re not living in the present moment, continually in the future, then fear will exist. So how do we overcome or deal with it?
Tools to help you overcome or deal with fear
- Focus on the present moment – simple answer, live in the now. Fear has no existence here right now. You’re ok. You can breathe. It’s all good. The energy is with you, you not projecting into some future vision. You’re right here, right now.
- Archangel Michael showed me a pretty cool tool this week. He asked me to imagine my fear as an object or bubble of energy. Then to tune in to see if it was connected to me in some way and where on my body this was connected. I had a huge cord of attachment from my ‘fear of failure bubble’ attached to the middle of my body (my solar plexus area). This was draining my confidence in self. He asked to imagine the cord gently dissolving, detaching me from the fear. It worked! I was able to stand up straighter afterwards, the energy of fear no longer pulling me down. Give it a go! The important thing to note is to not chop off the attachment with imaginary brute force. Imagine it gently dissolving away. The fear can travel along beside you, you’re aware of it but not allowing it to consume you.
- Another trick is to allow the fear to be there but don’t attach into it. Say to it “I see you fear but you have no power over me”. If it helps, create a character for it. A little devil or a gremlin perhaps. That way, the persona is detached from you and you can act on your true feelings rather than fear.
- Have a think about what your ‘worst case scenario’ would be. (For me, being homeless and living on the streets is pretty much my worst case scenario. Yet for that to happen, I’d have to fail at getting any job and cut myself off from family and friends. Which is a highly unlikely story – I know my loved ones would never see me struggle to the extent I didn’t even have a couch to sleep on). Then when fear pops its ugly head up, ask if it could lead to the worst case scenario. Chances are, your worst case scenario is way off in the distance. Sure, life might get a little uncomfortable for a while if things don’t plan out exactly as you’d expected – but at least you tried!
- Be grateful for where you are and what you have. Change will change lives – that’s inevitable, but appreciating what you already have rather than fearing that change, shifts the energy to a much more supportive energy attracting more of the things you appreciate and are grateful for.
- Things are rapidly changing. The amount of people I’ve heard mention The Void this week is staggering. That dark place in between the old falling away and the new beginning. Having just emerged from my own void, I can relate – it sucks! Fighting it = pointless. Worrying about things = waste of time. Fear exists in the void because we’re left bare, striped to the bone. With nothing to hold onto and nothing to reach for, fear tendrils can suck us under. The best piece of advice: Do nothing. Think nothing. Fear nothing. Just sit and relax for whatever length of time is needed for the light to shine on you again. It’ll come. Trust and be patient. Enjoy the down time – because trust me on this one – when the light does shine and you come out the other side, things move rapidly! (and you’ll wish like I now do, that you enjoyed doing nothing for a while. Enjoy the precious moment in between – as empty and uncomfortable as it is – perhaps view it as a little break!)
- Not everyone fears the same thing. Don’t compare yourself to others. You may fear public speaking but your friend thrives on it. You may love trying new things but your friend fears change. We’re all different. Looking at what others are doing, stunts your own progress.
- Live for now. If you really need something to do or focus on ask yourself: “What one small thing can I do today that will benefit me?” – if sleep is there answer, then sleep! The energies will whip you into shape again soon enough when the time is ready and you can tackle the fear with gusto.
Try not to let fear pull you under. It’s there to guide you. What we resist and run from often holds the key to our freedom.
Perhaps view it as a signal or sign. A sign that there’s an opportunity to grow or learn something new. After all, if we all plodded along in ease then life would be pretty boring.
Your comfort zone may be comfortable and you can hang out there as much as you want. But take a risk every now and again and see where the adventure takes you. You could be surprised!
Know that you’re not on your own. I’m right beside you, facing and dealing with my own fears. One step at a time.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Do you have any cool tools in dealing with fear? Or have you allowed fear to stop you recently? Is there something you can do today to move forward?