I came across these words at the weekend – ‘Don’t try and be what you’re not, because then you won’t find out who you are’
Do you know that feeling when you read a few words and they jump out at you to pay attention? That happened (and still does when I read this statement).
On deeper thought, I realised that I’ve been looking at what other people do as a learning mechanism, to see how things are done. It’s how I tend to learn, from example and experience rather than studying.
Unfortunately, looking at what other people do hasn’t been working at present. What it is doing instead is encouraging me to follow their example rather than creating my own.
And what it’s really doing is pulling me further and further away from who I am.
By looking at others, following their example, it’s showing me how things are done. Yet it’s limiting my creativity, it’s limiting how things could be done in my world.
‘Comparison’ – the dreaded word in my vocabulary.
I’ve noticed that unhealthy comparison (you know, the type if comparison that stops you in your tracks and makes you want to climb into bed and forget you ever saw the dreaded thing that ignited such a reaction in you) – yes unhealthy comparison turns up for me when I’m not showing up for myself.
When the things I want to be doing, could be doing, long to do, stay written on endless lists and I allow the success of others to hinder me. To pull me down.
I’ve started showing up for myself this past few days. I’ve been following where my heart longs to go, doing the things I’ve wanted to do for quite some time. In my own unique way.
I’ve toned down my social media browsing and instead I’m writing, creating and meditating. I’m getting things done (there’s some exciting things brewing behind the scenes to share with you guys – coming soon!)
And comparison. What comparison? What others are doing is no longer affecting me adversely. I’m showing up for me, I’m moving forward to where I want to go – and at the end of the day, that’s all that matters.
I’m not trying to be like others, I’m being me. And finding out a lot more about myself in the process as well as moving forward to where my soul is calling me.
A little reminder – ‘Don’t try and be what you’re not, because then you won’t find out who you are’
Be yourself. Do what you want and long to do. Be original.
Explore your truth, not somebody else’s idea of truth.
Just because she/he does it that way, doesn’t mean that’s how it should or could be done by you.
This is your permission (and perhaps a sign!) to cut back on social media and get shit done.
Or cut back on the things that are no longer serving you, that are weighing you down and holding you back (e.g. relationships, email clutter, unhealthy food making you sick, procrastination).
If you don’t show up as you, you’re dulling your sparkle and robbing the world of your special brand of genius.
(p.s. I’ve tried to find the source of the statement again to reference it but I can’t seem to find it. It was a moment of inspiration to jot down the words on a luminous pink post it so I apologise if these are your words that I’ve copied – if they are, let me know and I’ll be happy to update with a reference. Oh and thank you for the inspiration!)
Image found here: carlacoulson.com